10 Honest Things

I was tagged (over a month ago) by @NikolSpencer to do my 10 Honest Things. This is a tough one for me, I’m trying not to pick really obvious things that everyone who knows me will already know. Anyway, here goes…


The Honest Scrap award is given by other bloggers who consider a blog’s content or design to be brilliant. The awardee must then post ten honest things about themselves and pass the award on to other bloggers who fit the bill – in other words, someone brilliant.

1. I regret on a regular basis, not going away to college after graduating. I had intentions of doing it, I was going to work for a year and save up some money and then go to school. I’ve been working full time for 9 years now and never followed through on going to school.

2. I am a romantic soul – I hide behind other things a lot of the time, but deep down runs a romantic chord. I love poetry, sunsets, holding hands, kisses on the forehead and when my husband calls me “Darling”.

3. I believe in love at first sight. Even if you don’t realize that’s what it is. It took me 7 years to realize I was in love, but there was a sign from day one.

4. A log cabin home is my dream. Log cabin on the outside, more modern on the inside, overlooking a lake and secluded for miles from everyone. Someday we’ll build it and we’ll live there, I believe it’s true. Of course we’ll have internet and t.v., but the scenery will be breathtaking.

5. There is a wanna be photographer living inside of me. When I’m behind my point & shoot I’m happy and feel more artistic than I probably am, but I’m okay with that.

6. I sing at the top of my lungs when I drive in my car, sit at my desk at home or take a shower (my hubby is the only audience I ever have). I don’t care if I sound good or not, it’s a release for me and when I’m stressed it helps calm me, especially country music. A life without music is not one for me.

7. I was teased mercilessly in grade school, middle school and my Freshman year of High School. I developed before other girls and was heavier than almost everyone in my classes.  I still deal daily with my self consciousness and struggle when I look in the mirror. It’s something that will probably haunt me forever.

8. My ex cheated on me 6 months after we started dating and I found out from a girl who didn’t even like me who saw it happen. We dated for 4 1/2 years and I never forgave him for it, part of me believes to this day that it had a large hand in the demise of our relationship. I should have walked away and known better.

9. I’ve had names picked out for my children since I was 18. I feel like I’ve always had that motherly instinct and can not wait for the day I get to have a pregnant belly, give birth and hold my own child in my arms.

10. I’ve wanted to be a journalist, interior designer, photographer, grade school teacher and chef. I’m none of these things and now I have no idea what I want to be.

I’m sure most everyone I follow has already done their 10 Honest Things, but I’m giving a shout out to @Fleurdeleigh, @RiaSharon, @ZenMommy, @MissIve and @CanonicalBabble. If you read this and haven’t done one yet, please do (and let me know), I’m interested in getting to know all of you a little better.

Updated to add link to @NikolSpencer’s 10 Honest Things.

2 comments to “10 Honest Things”

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    On September 3rd, 2009 at 8:26 pm, Jen Wright/@MissIve said...


    I loved reading this. Seriously so cool. This is gonna be a long comment, so I’ll follow your numbers to keep it organized!

    1) (humble opinion) Regret requires so much energy to maintain. Energy that could be spent on really good things. If I feel regret, I force myself to act on it in one of two ways: fix it, or forgive it. I personally think you’re brilliant. If you want a degree to achieve a dream, awesome. If you want a degree because you want a degree, eff-it! The only thing I got from my degrees is debt. Grrr. Speaking of regret!

    2) “Darling?” Keeper.

    3) Agree—wholeheartedly.

    4) I have a dream (romantic) vacation. Jenny Lake Cabins in the Tetons. Log cabins at $600/night. Like you, I adore the rustic feeling, but c’mon, we need our luxuries!

    5) I love looking at photos, but have agreed to disagree with my camera.

    6) Affirmative, to all three+dancing.

    7) This one kills me to read. I hate to think of friends, especially as children, experiencing that sort of pain. But I do have to say, (so not politically correct to say this) let’s face it, all my favorite people have struggled with things. People who don’t, frankly, bore me. There. I said it. I also love what I read once from an American journalist in Italy. She said that in Italy, men find beauty in aspects of a woman, not in her whole, as American men tend to. (Throwing out stereotypes left and right here). She said American men say, “she’s pretty, she’s ugly,” while Italian men say, “she has beautiful lips, she has lovely hair . . .” I like that. I try to think of myself that way.

    8) Ironically, the two best examples of marriage I know have “cheating” stories from their dating years. Both husbands cheated on their wives while dating. Both women had to make the hard choice of whether to forgive and both have awesome relationships. Prolly not the norm, though. Still, so odd. (Totally breaking with my stereotypes from above!)

    9) I was exactly the same way. I feel like I have four more in me. My poor body.

    10) I’m not totally sure, either. A storyteller in some capacity. And bold. I want to be bold. You already are bold by writing this. I *might* accept your challenge. Maybe . . .

    I’m glad you did this. Thanks, Spencer, for pushing her!


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    On September 10th, 2009 at 9:20 pm, Ms Domestic Darling said...

    thank you so, so much for stopping by and reading my post and for your wonderful words of wisdom. I’m going to try and adapt your view on that first one. No regret. I really do want to do it for me, I just have to fund the courage to go for it!

    I too (and equally un-pc) find people who have gone through rough patches in life to be more “alive” than those who have not. And I am not at all hanging my head for being one of them. Especially after reading your comment.

    Italian men are very wise, I must say 😉

    You are such inspiration to believe in myself and such a truly amazing friend.